Lighting a Candle for Loved Ones: Honoring Family in Your NZ Wedding

Weddings are a celebration of love, but they’re also a time to remember those who can’t be there. lighting a candle for absent loved ones has become a cherished tradition, blending Māori and Pākehā influences. Whether it’s a parent, grandparent, or dear friend, this simple act adds profound meaning to your ceremony.

Why Light a Candle?
This tradition symbolizes the enduring presence of loved ones. Māori culture often incorporates aroha (love) and whānau (family) into ceremonies, while Pākehā customs focus on quiet remembrance. Together, they create a uniquely Kiwi moment of reflection.

How to Personalize It

• Use a candle made by a family member or one that reflects your heritage (e.g., beeswax for sustainability).
• Add a framed photo, a handwritten note, or a meaningful object (like a grandmother’s brooch) beside the candle.
• Include a karakia (Māori prayer) or a short reading to invite guests into the moment.

I've had clients light a candle at the ceremony and the reception, I've also had single frames and a large frame with various loved ones, I've had people save a seat in the front row with a flower placed on it.

Takeaways

• Keep it simple but heartfelt.
• Assign a trusted friend or family member to light the candle if emotions run high.
• Discuss the moment with your celebrant to ensure it flows seamlessly into your ceremony.

Lighting a candle isn’t just about loss—it’s about celebrating love’s timelessness. For couples marrying, it’s a beautiful way to weave family history into your new beginning.

Planning a wedding that honors your story? Let’s capture these irreplaceable moments together.

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